Question: I’m a girl and I fantasise about girls sometimes. I know homosexuality is a sin but is just fantasizing wrong?
Answer: one thing is for sure; everyone has done it – but that dons not make it right or easy to deal with. The fact is, not fantasising about anything is hard in this day and age when we are bombarded by sinful imagery, film and TV, media and advertising designed to make us desire unobtainable things and things we should don’t even need. But the question is; is it OK to fantasise (which is quite often mixed with lusting after what is not yours to have) in heaven? The answer has to be no.
Now onto what Jesus said about this;
“But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”
Adulteration means corruption
The word adultery means to corrupt – to make impure. In other words you defile the other person (and yourself) because they (and you) may belong to, or eventually be destined to be with another person. This is why it is wrong to fantasise about people or lust after things that are not yours, be they people, jobs, cars or anything. This is called coveting. So by lusting and fantasising after someone who is not your spouse you break 2 comandements; 1) do not covet and 2) do not commit adultery.
God knows your struggles
But look, God knows our struggles in this flesh. Remember that this flesh is temporary and was not how our bodies were originally or will be when all creation is restored. The flesh that dies and separated from God is constantly needy is part of the curse placed on us because we waned to be like or ‘as gods’ in the garden – the perfect place and our original setting at the beginning.
Why the spirit is willing but the flesh weak
But, we can break this fleshly curse God tells us in The Bible and not by pretending it’s not there or anything that God makes is bad in itself. The original body was good but it has fallen, needy and now dies. But if we are to break the curse of the flesh and all the sin that comes with it, it can only be done through God’s powerful spirit, and only by first acknowledging that something is wrong before it can be dealt with at all. So don’t beat yourself up over it, but fear God and His commands, and most importantly keep facing him even in your darkest temptations, and pray he brings you to a place of maturity where you are ready to receive a spouse that fulfils you physically and spiritually.
